If you accept this man's offer you are prostituting yourself. You are likely to catch a disease from him and, if you meet another man you like you would not only risk infecting him but also have to move out of your luxurious flat - or live a life of deceit finding ways to see both of them. What will you do if your sugar daddy tires of you and wants his flat back? Will he still fancy you when you are both old? If you accept this offer it cannot last forever and you will have to stand on your own financially at some time. It may be harder for you to find another partner when you are older. Which is more important to you? Having a free flat to live in or self respect and peace of mind?

My husband has been having an affair for three years. He thinks I do not know but it does not take a genius to work it out. She believes he will leave me for her but he will not. He won't leave me because he doesn't have a penny to his name. Everything we have has been bought and paid for by me. He is also too lazy to contact a solicitor for a divorce as I am the one who does all the paperwork. So his lover is in for a long wait. I believe in my marriage vows, so I won't divorce him. Do I say nothing to his mistress while he keeps her dangling on a string or should I tell her it will not happen?

You say your husband is lazy and stupid yet he managed to manipulate you into providing for him financially and doing boring tasks such as paperwork, and he has persuaded his mistress into providing friendship and sex. He does not sound stupid. Out of the three of you your husband has the best life and is calling all the shots. What was so wrong with your marriage that your husband wanted to cheat on you? Why would his mistress listen to you and why would you care about her? Surely you would only tell her in the hope that she believes every word you say and dumps him. Instead of focusing on his mistress and how horrible and lazy your husband is concentrate on how YOU feel and what YOU want. Do you want to stay married to a man who has no love or respect for you? How is this a victory? Do you have so little thought for your own happiness?