Dating an Older Man

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Dating an older man. During my 30+ years as an agony aunt I have had a lot of young women come to me asking me about problems or complications that have arisen with their relationship with an older guy. The snag with dating an older uy is that your family or friends may warn you against it and tell you to find someone younger, and you ignore it because you think you kjnow best or you like the man so much you think he is worth it. But then when a complication or a problem arises you cannot go to them and ask them because you do not want them to say they told you so! Remember that whatever the age of your guy there will be problems and complications, this does not mean that the guy is not worth being with or that you were silly to choose him.

The great things about dating an older guy is that he often has more experience of life, is wiser, better able to make decisions, more level headed, calmer and responsible. The guy who is older should have evolved into whatever he is capable of and fulfilled his desires and ambitions. If he wanted to own and run his own business and he worked at it then he should have achieved that. If this more mature man is still living in a dirty tiny bedsit with debts and no job then he will never be able to achieve much because he has already had years to do it in. The downsides to dating an older guy are usually more likely to be physical, such as him being slower, less fit, less healthy. In extreme cases he might be unable to do the things he used to do - dance, walk far, run, decorate the spare room, make love for an hour or whatever. If he is unable to work what does this mean to the relationship and to your income? Where does this leave you? Does he expect you to work to keep him? If he is very ill does he expect you to stay in with him all of the time or nurse him?  Yes love conquers all but why get involved in such a one sided situation in the first place? There is also the fact that many of the older guys are married. Lots of younger ladies write to an agony aunt problem page and ask an agony auntie for online advice because they get involved and then regret it.

The other thing to remember with a more mature guy is that how much it matters depends on how big the age gap is and what your ages are. It also depends on what experience YOU have had of life. If you are only sixteen and the more mature guy is eighteen you may say it is only two years but at that age it is a huge gap. Whereas if a woman of fifty meets a man who is fifty two that two year gap is nothing. But there are exceptions. I recently had a client who was a woman of sixty six but who had never dated, been kissed or had a normal relationship of any type. A man of twenty would have known a lot more about life than her so in many ways she would be counted as younger than him.

Dating an older man